Romantic relationships can either contribute to great happiness or great sorrow, in most of our lives. Are you one who has a deep desire to bond with someone who is your ideal counterpart?
If you are tired of the pain of “trying to make it work” in situations that are so difficult, that turn out to be outright dysfunctional or your worst nightmare, take heart. Learning more about what you really need and how to spot that in a potential partner is easier than you think.
In my work as a Vedic Astrologer for the past 28 years, I have helped many couples, as well as singles wanting to be sure they have found Mr. or Ms. Right. My training in this 5000 year old Vedic Science of understanding the blueprint or roadmap for your life, lets us see if you have found the treasure of lasting love or may be once again barking up the wrong tree.
Key Elements of Successful Relationships –
In addition to the tried and true elements of mutual love, trust and respect, please make sure you have alignment with the would-be partner in these key areas:
- Communication – If you are born with a different style of communication than your partner, there are tools and insights I can provide which may help. Understanding that we all employ thinking, feeling and acting, but not necessarily in that order, is very important. It helps us understand that not everyone “processes” information or experiences the way we do.
- Passion – It’s either there or it’s not! This is not an area where we can “pretend it doesn’t matter” or that it will get better in time. You may have a beautiful friendship but without the charm of that special spark of sexual attraction and compatibility, it’s no use trying to trick your mind into believing that the lack of this type of energetic connection will change or improve over time.
- Friendship – This element IS also important in a marriage or union (in addition to passion), and when I examine two people’s charts, it is clear to me if it is there, or instead, its nemesis: competition. Let’s leave the competitive spirit in the Olympics or sports contests, for it has no place in a friendship or marriage, and has ruined many of both.
- Shared Life Interest or Life Work – This takes a couples’ attention to a higher realm of a combined contribution to the planet, to mankind, to the betterment of one’s society, country or life on Earth. The inner satisfaction of working as a team, on a project or mission that is “bigger than both of us” expands both hearts and lifts the boat of your relationship to sail out in the tide of the bigger Sea of Life and feel in the flow of a higher purpose. This could be a joint volunteer effort, something you enjoy doing together in your spare time, or an actual vocational calling in which you work together daily.
What’s Your Natural Creative Energy?
Back in the 1960’s, people would ask “what’s your sign?” There’s a modern version of this going around the Boulder/Denver area. I was trained as a Coach and Group Facilitator for the Institute of Spiritual Partnership, during 3.5 years of study with the Found, Larry Byram. We learned about seven creative energies that explain how we “show up” in relationships, as well as life work arenas.
Are you an Expressive Energy or an Inspirational Energy? Perhaps you are an Action Energy or more of an Observational person by nature. Are you group-oriented or feel more comfortable one-on-one in every day life? Part of my compatibility reading services helps you determine which of the above you may be, and also what type of partner you’d feel most aligned with.
Examining your Creative Energies in this system shows us if it is a good idea for the two of you to work together in a business, or whether “taking time apart” is actually one of the remedies, if stress or tension is building up between you. Giving your partner the “space” that he or she needs is an easy gift to give if you are secure within yourself, and with the relationship.
Everyone needs “space to breathe;” emotional “neediness” can cause your loved one to have the impulse to run away, if you are subconsciously or overtly clutching too tightly to him or her, like a drowning person to a life preserver. Expanding your energy up, up and away from your own fears makes you more energetically attractive to your partner and helps elevate your focus to being of service TO the relationship vs. the more selfish focus of “how can this relationship serve me?” Being able to give from a full heart will attract to us an equal counterpart rather than a string of users and takers, such as we may be so tired of running into already.
Taking a stand “to be the man or woman we came here to be,” despite all previous disappointments, will protect your heart from becoming jaded, the energy of which is a sure turnoff and does not attract your true mate!
Keeping compassion flowing for yourself in the times of the Dark Night of the Soul enables you to also have true compassion for others. This does not mean feeling sorry for yourself or having an ongoing pity party (which is more “turnoff energy”), nor does it mean not having healthy boundaries with others or letting yourself become a doormat.
Understand your natural Creative Energies; understand your Vedic birth-chart, and the life purpose you were born to fulfill. Learn to be true to yourself, and you will naturally attract the best life partner, with whom to share life’s journey.
Watch for my upcoming articles on:
Your Love Languages: Understanding how you best feel connected to a mate
Determining your Creative Energy
Who’s your best match?
Karma: why do I have it and how does it affect my relationships?